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Researchers from the University of the West of Scotland conducted a study on the correlation between the way women walk and whether or not they are vaginally orgasmic. After coming up with a set of criteria by which to judge, they set about filming 20 women walking. Half of the women were vaginally orgasmic ( the exact definition of what 'vaginally orgasmic' means was not given) and the other half were self identified as not being vaginally orgasmic.

When the researchers asked the therapists, they had previously trained with their set of criteria, to identify the women whom they thought were vaginally orgasmic, they accurately identified 80 percent after watching them walk. The criteria involved how freely the women walked, their open, easy gate and the hip to leg rotation relationship of each woman. Basically, the more open, easy, freewheeling and swinging the woman's walk was, the more orgasmic potential she has, according to this study.

While much more needs to be done in this kind of research, I basically believe it. Taking up dancing, yoga, ecstatic movement and wide, freely swinging walking can free a woman's pelvis. It promotes blood flow, confidence and joint flexibility that makes us more alive. Get yourself a hulahoop and practice the curvaceous moves or stand with your feet slightly apart, hands on hips and move your pelvis in a figure eight shape. Start slowly at first but move into wider shapes once you know you're not going to hurt yourself.

I'll write a longer article on the benefits of movement, on the different nerves that serve our pelvic region and our responses to orgasm soon but for now get moving.

By Suzie Heumann

A woman's sexual desires naturally fluctuate over the years. Highs and lows commonly coincide with the beginning or end of a relationship or with major life changes, such as pregnancy, menopause or illness. However, if you are bothered by a low sex drive or decreased sex drive, there are lifestyle changes and sex techniques that may put you in the mood more often. Some medications offer promise as well.

Even researchers disagree about the best measure of low sex drive in women. After all, perfectly normal women vary greatly in their desire for sex and their views about the optimal amount of sex. Besides, the number of times you have sex each week isn't necessarily a good measure of your libido; women skip sex for many reasons that have nothing to do with desire, including fatigue, stress, poor body image or lack of emotional intimacy.

So, what exactly is low sex drive in women ? In medical terms, you have hypoactive sexual desire disorder if you have a persistent or recurrent lack of interest in sex that causes you personal distress. But you don't have to meet this medical definition to seek help. If you aren't as interested in sex as you'd like to be, talk to your doctor.


The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

Woman on top :

The woman on top position is definitely the choice of women. she gets direct stimulation of the clitoris and can achieve orgasm easily. Women have greater control in this position. Men find that the stimulation is less intense so he can delay ejaculation. His hands are free to stimulate her clitoris or breasts.

The woman on top position is probably the best for clitoris stimulation and direct contact. If greater stimulation is needed there is a cream called Vigorelle, that the woman can gently apply to her vaginal area or clitoris for greater sensitivity, thus a more intense orgasm. Women claim that this produces a tingling and warming sensation which has help them achieve orgasm when it was difficult before.

There is of course another method of greatly increasing the woman's orgasm and sexual pleasure that is becoming popular among men. That is penis enlargement today more and more men are increasing the size of their penis for their partners' satisfaction and their own. There is a NEW method for increasing the size of the male penis safely and naturally that can be implemented at home. It does NOT involve surgery.

Rawhide :

How it's done: She should lie down on the bed on her stomach, with her legs straight and slightly apart. You (the man) then sit right behind her with your legs in front of you and your hands on either side of your body supporting you. You then lean back joining your genitals with hers. Bring her legs together for a tight fit as you rock back and forwards. Her elbows should be with her arms in front of her for leverage.

What will it do for her ? If she likes to be dominated then this is the position for her. You can move your penis about freely allowing her to feel all the pleasure.

What will it do for you (the man) ? You can take full charge with this position and get a front row view of her rear. You can take it at your own pace and move as fast and hard or as slow and gentle as suits.

The pleasure spot

How it's done: She should lie on the bed with a pillow under her head bringing her knees up to her breasts with her legs crossed at the ankles. You (the man) kneel in front of her, lean in and pull her hips onto your lap. Keep her thighs glued together and gently press her feet against your chest for support as you enter her.

What will it do for her? This is a great position to allow her to clench her PC muscles ensuring deep tighter penetration.

What will it do for you (the man)? While she grabs your bottom, she can pull you into her for deeper penetration taking your whole package inside her. This position is intense and will have both your fluids flowing.

Scissor cut :

How it's done: She should lie face-up on a table, desk or other raised, hard surface with her hips perched on the edge. Raise her legs to a 90-degree angle. You (the man) will be standing in front of her holding her ankles. Spread her legs wide open while you enter her. Next you alternately cross and spread her legs like scissors, opening and closing as you thrusts.

The Female Superior Position :

In The Female Superior Position she lies on top of the man with her legs on the outside of his legs. Her body is parallel with his and she is able to move around and manipulate his penis getting into areas he would never be able to do if he were on top. While she is on top, she can kneel, squat, or sit on top of his erect penis. When she sits on his erect penis in this position, his penis penetrates very deeply and can almost always make the woman achieve an orgasm.

In this variation she can sit on you using her hands to push herself up and down as she faces your feet. She also has the option to ease back close to your chest with her legs together. You can experiment with these different variations to find each other's G SPOT.

Lap dancer :

How it's done: You need to be leaning back onto a high-backed chair with a cushion/pillow behind him. Firstly she should sit above your lap with her hands clasping the chair to support her. Then one leg at a time rests her feet on your shoulders. Then she should use her bottom to move back and forth on you penis.

What will it do for her ? This is an intimate position where you can both watch each other's bodies, keeping eye contact all the way through.

What will it do for you (the man) ? Although she controls the movements so the thing she can do to stop you from coming is to jump off. You might not be able to control yourself as you watch her in full action.

The Octopus :

How it's done: You (the man) sit on the floor with your hands behind you resting on the floor, your knees slightly bent with your legs splayed open.

Keeping her hands on the floor for support, she faces you, then straddles your lap, raising her legs so her legs rest on your shoulders. Now she rocks back and fourth gently making sure to keep your bodies close together so your penis doesn't slip out.


By Rebook Srs

Questions ?

My boyfriend and I don't want to have sex until we're married, but we still find many ways to enjoy each other. I'm able to have an orgasm when he touches me with his fingers and when I'm masturbating. But I've noticed that whether I'm masturbating or he's doing it for me, I can only orgasm once, then not again for a long time. After I've climaxed the first time, my clitoris gets really sensitive, and although I want to orgasm again and it feels close, it almost hurts and I just can't seem to do it. I feel really bad because I know my boyfriend wants to please me and feels like he's not doing it well enough. I don't want to fake more orgasms to make him happy, because then I'd feel guilty. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to have multiple orgasms ?

Answer :

I don't know what your favorite meal is, but let's pretend it's steak and French fries. So you're at a restaurant, you've just finished a nice juicy steak with lots of fries and you're feeling really full. Then the waiter comes over, puts down another plate of steak and fries in front of you and says, "With the compliments of the chef." It's free! You may be able to stuff down another couple of mouthfuls, but unless you're a 300-pound football player, you would probably gag after the third bite. That's analogous to your situation with orgasms. After you already have a satisfying orgasm, you're not going to be ready for another until you "digest" the first one.

You've probably heard that some women are multi orgasmic. It's true, but there's a difference between them and you. Imagine that when the waiter brought your first order of steak and fries, it was on a tiny little plate and you cleaned it all up in a couple of bites. You wouldn't feel fully satisfied from that, would you? When the waiter brought the next little plate, you'd clean that one up too. Eventually, after a few plates, you might feel satiated, but maybe not.


Women who are multi orgasmic don't get satiated by their first orgasm, and so they want more. I'm not going to guess who's better off, those women who are fully satisfied after one orgasm or those who need many. The fact remains that you are who you are. If you're satisfied with one orgasm, that's great as long as you get that one orgasm. You don't require another one, and if you try to force yourself, it won't be very pleasurable. So stop worrying about this, and tell your boyfriend to stop pressuring you into having more than one orgasm.


By Dr. Ruth Westheimer


The above information thankfully comes from the love.ivillage.com at the following link.

If the woman has never masturbated herself to orgasm, then not only will she struggle to reach orgasm, she'll struggle to teach her partner to take her there too.

Back in cave days, Ancient Greece and even the pre-feminist fifties, a woman’s orgasm was a purely incidental part of sex. Those were simple times to a man. But no longer.

Now she knows her rights. She’s read the Kama Sutra and Cosmo’s sealed sex supplement. She’s probably even seen Paris Hilton’s skin flick on the Net. The results: she wants – no, expects the biggest orgasm possible. Or seven, if you can manage it.

And you might as well admit it: you get off on her getting off. Knowing that you’re responsible for that quivering, shivering expulsion of sensation is the second best thing about sex. It’s a ride in a sports car. It’s a hole in one.

So what happens if she just can’t climax? What if you’ve exhausted your box of erotic tricks and she’s still lying there, passionless and poker faced? Well, once in a while it’s totally understandable. Once a week it’s probably forgivable. But if she comes less often than you have your car washed (and we know that is hardly ever), you’ve got problems.

When sex works, it takes up about 20% of a relationship. But when it doesn’t, it takes up about 90%. This is because bad sex seldom stays in the bedroom. If she can’t have an orgasm, he’ll probably start to feel that he’s not a good lover. Meanwhile, she’s thinking something’s wrong with her. At first both will try harder, which only creates more pressure and makes the problem worse. Then their egos become bruised and they start to withdraw from each other.

The result: drought. A dry and destructive avoidance, not only of sex, but of any intimacy that may lead to dreaded carnal carnage.

There is some reassuring news in all of this: the lack of female orgasm is more common than you think. And there are ways to coax it out of hiding. Research shows that about 30% of women globally live with pre-orgasmia, which means they’ve never experienced an orgasm. That means one in three women out there don’t know what they’re missing.

Then another 30% of women are situationally pre-orgasmic, meaning they only have orgasms in certain situations, for example, when masturbating or when they feel safe and happy with their partner. Lastly about 30% of women have orgasms some of the time.

Who knew ? Whether they’re faking it or just lying back and taking it, a disturbing number of women are flatlining after foreplay. And though there may be safety in numbers, this fact still sucks. The big question is: who is to blame?

Poor technique by men is a major inhibiting factor. Especially men who think they know what to do, who believe orgasms happen with pounding penetration only, who don’t listen to their women and who don’t spend enough time arousing her in ways that she uniquely appreciates. Plus, if he puts her under enormous pressure to orgasm, this can inhibit her too. This can’t be his fault entirely. If the woman has never masturbated herself to orgasm, then not only will she struggle to climax, she’ll struggle to teach her partner to take her there too. She may also be unable to let go and surrender to orgasm due to a negative body image, low sexual confidence, or lack of trust in the relationship. Or she could fear pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections. Maybe she’s on medication or anti-depressants, that inhibit orgasm.

Religious upbringing, family attitudes and sexual experiences all play a role. If you grow up with the idea that genitals are dirty and sex is sinful, or purely for your husband’s pleasure, it impacts on your ability to have an orgasm. One of the most powerful preventative beliefs is that good girls don’t do that.

Okay, so coming is more complicated that we thought. But what’s a guy to do when his ego’s smarting and his manhood’s slowly withering in the desert of his bed? Well, he adjusts his attitude.

Don’t blame her and don’t blame yourself. And however tempting it is to prove your sexual dexterity, don’t tell her that you could give your last lover five orgasms in five minutes. The idea is to make her feel better about herself, not you.

Talk

You may have to help her help you. This means talking about the sex you have. Try to ask the right questions at the right time. During intimate moments, encourage her to guide you around her body.

Seek out her Buttons

Every woman has a unique set of buttons that will lead to her undoing. Study her and don’t rely on tried and tested tricks you learnt in another woman’s bed. Watch her carefully while you making love. See how her facial expression changes. Watch the color deepen on her face, body and vulva. Her breathing will become shallower and she may even scream. Allow her to build to this pitch, and let her see you’re noticing her excitement. Talk to her, but first discover what kind of talk she enjoys, or if she needs silence.

Stop Trying so Hard

Pressure is the biggest passion killer, so if she’s struggling to climax a goal oriented mind set will only make things worse. If the aim is to achieve orgasm every time, frustration and insecurity mount. Just let your bodies relax and enjoy the moment and take orgasm out of the equation. Over time, this attitude together with good communication, will encourage her body to respond differently and allow orgasm to happen. Stop going for goals and just play with her. Find out what makes her tick and you can explode her.


By Sandra Prior

A new study found that trained sexologists could infer a woman's history of vaginal orgasm by observing the way she walks. The study is published in the September 2008 issue of The Journal of Sexual Medicine, the official journal of the International Society for Sexual Medicine and the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health.

Led by Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland in collaboration with colleagues in Belgium, the study involved 16 female Belgian university students. Subjects completed a questionnaire on their sexual behaviour and were then videotaped from a distance while walking in a public place. The videotapes were rated by two professors of sexology and two research assistants trained in the functional-sexological approach to sexology, who were not aware of the women's orgasmic history.

The results showed that the appropriately trained sexologists were able to correctly infer vaginal orgasm through watching the way the women walked over 80 percent of the time. Further analysis revealed that the sum of stride length and vertebral rotation was greater for the vaginally orgasmic women. "This could reflect the free, unblocked energetic flow from the legs through the pelvis to the spine," the authors note.

There are several plausible explanations for the results shown by this study. One possibility is that a woman's anatomical features may predispose her to greater or lesser tendency to experience vaginal orgasm. According to Brody, "Blocked pelvic muscles, which might be associated with psychosexual impairments, could both impair vaginal orgasmic response and gait." In addition, vaginally orgasmic women may feel more confident about their sexuality, which might be reflected in their gait. "Such confidence might also be related to the relationship(s) that a woman has had, given the finding that specifically penile-vaginal orgasm is associated with indices of better relationship quality," the authors state. Research has linked vaginal orgasm to better mental health.

The study provides some support for assumptions of a link between muscle blocks and sexual function, according to the authors. They conclude that it may lend credibility to the idea of incorporating training in movement, breathing and muscle patterns into the treatment of sexual dysfunction.

"Women with orgasmic dysfunction should be treated in a multi-disciplinary manner" says Irwin Goldstein, Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine." Although small, this study highlights the potential for multiple therapies such as expressive arts therapy incorporating movement and physical therapy focusing on the pelvic floor."

The above information thankfully comes from the scientislive.com at the following link.

There’s more than one kind of orgasm. Here are some mind blowing moves to choose from. Orgasms: what’s not to like ? They feel great, they relieve tension and, ever since your first one, you’ve certainly been perfecting the art. But have you wondered just how varied the range can be ? Just as Eskimos have hundreds of words for ‘snow’, a girl can have many, many types of orgasm and like snowflakes, no two orgasms are the same but there are categories they fall into. Look at the following for inspiration and have fun trying them out.

The Multiple Orgasm

There are actually two strains of this type of climax multiple and multi and which one you have depends on how you react after you’ve come. Like men, after orgasm some women experience a period of time when they’re too sensitive to have sex again; they have to back away from pleasure before starting once more.

If you’re hypersensitive after climaxing, it means you can have multiple orgasms. Give yourself a grace period before starting stimulation again. Get your man to stay inside you after you come, then count 5 or 10 of your vaginal contractions before you begin whatever brings you to orgasm again. Experiment with the amount of recovery time you need, to see if you can catch a wave of pleasure back up to the top.

For many other women, orgasm is more like a roller coaster they get to the top and then have smaller hills and valleys. These women are having multi-orgasms. Sounds like you ? Then don’t back away when you feel post passion pleasure turn an aftershock into another orgasm by keeping the stimulation going, even when you’re sure you are done.

The Elusive Orgasm

It’s the most frustrating experience in the world; an orgasm that taunts you with its pleasurable properties but never quite makes its intentions clear. A lot of it is fear of completely letting go. Orgasm is the most intimate, emotional act. It’s completely involuntary. You can’t will it to happen. But because your release has eluded you, your muscles are more tense and the release of that tension is all the more satisfying.

Sink into the sensation and pay attention to your body, not your performance. Trying the old tantric trick of looking into your partner’s eyes will bring you back into the present. Most of all, don’t put pressure on yourself. Getting into bed with the single goal of bagging an orgasm won’t get you off. Enjoy the journey and the destination may find you after all.

The Soul Orgasm

There’s sex and climax and then there’s the sky splitting experience that takes your orgasm into the spiritual realm. This orgasm really makes you feel like you’re becoming one with your man. Let go of cynicism and open yourself up to the idea that sex is more than just a bodily experience. Make sure there’s lots of eye contact. Be well versed in his ultimate turn-on and his thrill will make your pleasure even deeper.

The Solo G – spot Orgasm

You’ve heard of the G-spot orgasm, where your guy crooks his finger inside your vagina in a come-hither motion, stimulating a wrinkly spot (the periurethral sponge) at the front of the vaginal canal. But if you haven’t managed to have a G-spot orgasm, practicing on your own might make you feel less self-conscious. A regular orgasm involves vaginal muscle contractions and waves feel good sensations. A G-spot orgasm is harder, more intense and passes quicker. It also calls for a firmer assault on the area.

The T – zone Orgasm

Once you’ve found the G-spot, you can head further up your vaginal wall, towards your belly button, and begin searching for the T-zone. The Trigone zone is a nerve rich area that controls the bladder and creates pleasure. You feel it all over. A T-zone orgasm is a powerful wave of energy that takes up a lot more of your body than a regular one. It can last a lot longer too.

How do you approach the T-zone ?

A toy helps because you do have to go deep. A long vibrator with a wide, throbby end, inserted deeply, then tipped towards the belly button, will do the trick. Alternatively, lie on your tummy with your man inside you, entering from behind experiment until he’s pushing against the same spot. Once the pleasure begins, your inner physiognomy may change; your uterus contracts, pulling the T-spot up and away from where it was; some women have to chase it, so be intrepid.


By Sandra Prior

As a woman, I can definitely speak to the fact that many women enjoy a good orgasm, but a better orgasm can create a mind-blowing, body-shaking, toe curling moment. The fact is every woman is acutely aware of every flaw on her body and as her partner, it is your duty to boost her self-confidence or the ideas I’m about to detail will fizzle instead of sizzle.

Oral sex or tongue action is a great way to a better orgasm for women since the clitoris is the nerve center of her vagina. Next to intercourse, oral sex is just as erotic and rewarding and often leads to a better orgasm.

Even better, setting the right atmosphere will do wonders in leaving her weak with anticipation. Seduce her with words before she leaves for work send her off on an orgasmic high. Tell her in graphic details how your tongue will begin a long, slow, wet path up her thighs to her vagina.

Then drop to your knees, slowly kissing the inside of one thigh giving her a sample of what’s to come. If she doesn’t have a mini orgasm then and there don’t worry because you’ve left her with a lasting impression to keep her body humming all day long.

What a delicious way to set the tone for a better orgasm. As she spends her day in breathless anticipation here are a few secrets ideas to continue building the sexual tension.

First, set a warm bubble bath filled with rose-petals and place scented candles appropriately for mood lighting. Next, give her hot-smoldering looks as you run your hands over her body make her feel sexy. And, the last tip to set the stage for a better orgasm is to feed her sweet tasting fruits such as chocolate covered strawberries then suck the juices from her fingers one-by-one.

All of this foreplay will have her body wound tighter than a guitar string. Now you can begin strumming her body leading her towards a better orgasm. The cues that she is extremely turned on are usually erect nipples begging to be sucked, or rapid breathing indicating the orgasmic tension gripping her body.

Don’t deny her any longer she’s waited long enough for a better orgasm. Reach down between her legs and caress her vagina, stay clear of her clitoris since the slightest touch will send her over the edge. Slide her legs over your shoulders and settle your body between her thighs. Fulfill your earlier promise by nibbling the insides of her thighs leaving a wet path as you head towards your goal. Hold onto her hips as your tongue reaches the prize her clitoris. Be prepared for an instantaneous surging of her body as she is consumed by a hot, powerful orgasm.

As the clitoris can be extremely sensitive after a good no, make that a better orgasm stop the stimulation as her orgasm slows. Pull her body against yours’ in a spooning position. As she settles into a delicious orgasmic haze, slowly caress her to create a sense of security and well-being. There you have it, a great technique for giving her an even better orgasm. And, remember anything worth doing right often takes a lot of practice. So put your best effort or should I say tongue action into it!

By E.J. Davis

As a man the only sign you guys can get of whether or not you are doing a good job in bed is whether or not you can get her to cry out during an orgasm. Otherwise how will you ever know if she is really enjoying what you are doing. Well I am going to give you some great tips so that you can have her crying out every time you have sex with her.

To start with you need to make sure you are in an empty house and let her know that she can be as loud as she wants. Letting her know this will stop her from keeping it in and will make sure that she will be as loud as you make her!

When she is aware of this you need to make sure you take your time in pleasing her, remember you have the house to yourself so there is no need to rush!

Start off with plenty of foreplay, women love foreplay. During this foreplay make sure she gets plenty of attention so she will be ready for an orgasm.

Keep changing positions and techniques until you find one that she seems to enjoy and just go with that one for a while.

Once she is nearing orgasm change position to either doggy style or missionary with her legs over your shoulders. These positions allow for the deepest penetration possible which results in the best orgasms.

Use these great tips and you will have she cry out during her orgasm.

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By Maria Holland

Obviously, the major symptom of low sex drive in women is a low or absent desire for sex. According to some studies, more than 40 percent of women complain of low sexual desire at some point. The percentage is smaller 5 percent to 15 percent if you only count women with ongoing problems.

Still, researchers acknowledge that it's difficult to measure what's normal and what's not. If you want to have sex less often than your partner does, neither one of you is necessarily outside the norm for people at your stage in life although your differences may cause distress. Similarly, even if your sex drive is weaker than it once was, your relationship may be stronger than ever. Bottom line: There is no magic number to define low sex drive. It varies from woman to woman.



The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

About 10% of women have never had an orgasm either with a partner or during masturbation. And quite a few of them have found their way into my therapy practice. That's when I tell these women the good news: It is possible to learn to be orgasmic.

The first and most important lesson is to practice developing a balance of tension and relaxation during sexual activity. But, my women clients ask, how can they be both tense and relaxed at the same time ? It's a good question, and here is my two part answer:

How to Have an Orgasm Step 1 : Tense Up

The type of tension that helps women reach orgasm is muscle tension (myotonia). Many women have the mistaken impression that they should relax and "just lie there" because they've heard that relaxation during sex is important. But it turns out that muscle tension is often necessary for an orgasm. In my experience, the majority of women learn to have their first orgasm by incorporating a fair amount of leg, abdominal, and buttock tension.

Not surprisingly, women report that the most orgasm-inducing muscle contractions are in their lower pelvis. These are the same muscles you squeeze to stop the flow of urine midstream (a conscious contraction of this group is called a Kegel exercise).

What is the connection between tensing muscle groups and having an orgasm? Arousal. Contracting (or tensing) certain muscles increases blood flow throughout the body and often to the genital area. And arousal, of course, is the road map that helps lead most women to orgasm.

How to Have an Orgasm Step 2 : Wind Down

So, where's the relaxation part of this equation? In the brain. During sex, a woman should be focused simply on feeling the sensations of the stimulation.

Have a hard time relaxing? Think of a Times Square billboard in which words stream into view from the left-hand side to the right edge, and then disappear off the screen. During sex, many women find it helpful to program their own Times Square news crawl with a repetitive mantra such as "I can take as long as I want" or "This really feels great" on their mental silent radio. It keeps the brain occupied but with a thought that will encourage sexual arousal rather than with a nervous, negative thought that might decrease arousal.

After this first lesson, I send my clients away with a homework assignment. During sex, they are to tense up their muscles and let their minds go silent. This technique takes practice, but it can work over time. And more often than not, my clients return to a future session with their own good news to report.

Can't Orgasm ? The Problem Could Be Medical

Therapy can help some women having difficulty with orgasm. For others, a medical condition or side effects from a medication may be causing the problem. Visit your doctor to rule out these causes. Options for treatment include the following :

By Louanne Cole Weston, PhD

Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits. One sexual benefit for women is that having a strong PC muscle makes it easier to achieve orgasm. There are many women who do not achieve orgasm so easily, and developing the PC muscle makes this a lot easier.

The PC muscle is a hammock-shaped muscle, stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone. This muscle e.g., controls your bladder, and when you go to the toilet, you can locate it by stopping the stream of urine. The muscle you feel contracting when you do this is your PC muscle.

You can strengthen it by voluntarily contracting it, over and over again, during activities like driving a car or watching television. Strengthening the PC muscle will give men and women several sexual and health benefits.

One sexual benefit for women is that having a strong PC muscle makes it easier to achieve orgasm. There are many women who do not achieve orgasm so easily, and developing the PC muscle makes this a lot easier. The stronger your PC muscle gets, the higher the sensitivity of your genitals, because of the higher blood flow.

An orgasm is mainly felt as the contractions of the PC muscle, and when it is not strong enough, it will not contract easily. But the stronger it gets, the better you feel it, and the easier you will achieve orgasm.

There are roughly four “orgasmic levels” for women :

When you have never achieved an orgasm, sometimes training your PC muscle is enough to achieve orgasm, and sometimes you need medical help. One thing is clear from research: the higher you are in these categories, the stronger your PC muscle is. And strengthening your PC muscle can move you up in these categories, and will make you achieve orgasm much easier.

By Tony Higgins

A woman's desire for sex is based on a complex interaction of many components affecting intimacy, including physical well-being, emotional well-being, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and current relationship. If you're experiencing problems in any of these areas, it can affect your sexual desire. In other words, there are dozens of reasons you may not be interested in sex:

Physical Causes

A wide range of illnesses, physical changes and medications can cause a low sex drive, including :

medications and chemotherapy drugs are notorious libido killers. Antihistamines also can zap your sex drive.
Hormone Changes

Changes in your hormone levels may change your desire for sex :

Psychological Causes

Your problems don't have to be physical or biological to be real. There are many psychological causes of low sex drive, including :

Relationship Issues

For many women, emotional closeness is an essential prelude to sexual intimacy. So problems in your relationship can be a major factor in low sex drive. Decreased interest in sex is often a result of ongoing issues, such as :

The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

Waiting in the drugstore recently, I was startled by a glimpse of the cover of Cosmopolitan Magazine. No, it was not the display of copious cleavage, nor the breathless tone of the article titles. It was the title of one article in particular: Your Orgasm Face; What He’s Thinking When He Sees It.

As a gynecologist, I’ve had unique opportunity to view the consequences of increasing sexual openness. It appears to be a bonanza for young men, generally at the expense of young women. Men get all the benefits; women carry all the risks. Men get laid, get action, get lucky and women get pregnant, get sexually transmitted diseases, get infertile, get cervical cancer.

And all in exchange for what ? Young men are almost always sexually satisfied by their relationships. Young women? Not so much … because young men are often inexperienced lovers more concerned about their own enjoyment than anything else.

The idea that women exist solely for the sexual satisfaction of men is the basis of pornography. What is surprising and depressing is that young women are being encouraged by other women to believe that they exist only for the sexual satisfaction of young men.

Pornography is the objectification of women, generally described as :

Portraying women as physical objects that can be looked at and acted upon, and failing to portray women as subjective beings with thoughts, histories, and emotions. To objectify someone, then, is to reduce someone exclusively to the level of object.

In pornography, the objectification of women is sexual. Women are physical objects that can be looked at and acted upon sexually. They have no thoughts, feelings or needs of their own.

That does not, in itself, mean that pornography is bad. As long as the viewer understands that it is fictional and unrealistic, it can be viewed as nothing more than a sexual outlet. The problem occurs when people begin to believe that it is a realistic depiction of women, and that women do exist only to satisfy the sexual needs of men and have no sexual needs of their own.

The relentless use of sexual imagery to sell products and gain attention can be blamed for giving young women the idea that their role in life is to satisfy the sexual needs of men. It is an unfortunate, and unintended consequence of sexualizing large swaths of contemporary culture. Altogether more disturbing, because it is intended and explicit, is the way that women’s magazines have encouraged women themselves to believe that their chief value is as objects for the sexual gratification of men.

There are many offenders, but Cosmopolitan Magazine tops the list, for its sheer variety and lack of subtlety, if nothing else. The cover of this months’ Cosmo includes articles on Total Body Sex, the Naked Quiz and The Trick that Attracts Hot Guys Like Crazy. But even Cosmo has reached a new low with the featured article Your Orgasm Face; What He’s Thinking When He Sees It.

As if the objectification of women in men’s magazines were not bad enough, encouraging men to believe that women exist only for their sexual pleasure, women’s magazines are emphasizing the point: Not only are your sexual needs and desires irrelevant, ladies, but you will be judged if you dare to express them. What matters about your sexual needs is not their fulfillment, just the effect that your fulfillment has on men’s enjoyment.

Cosmo reminds women that not only are they being judged for sexual attractiveness (evidently the only characteristic of concern) by breast size, weight and facial features, now they are being judged on how they look during sex. You might be pretty, you might be thin, you might be well endowed, and that will convince him to take you to bed. That’s not where it ends, though. He’s still entitled to judge your performance during sex and finding you lacking.

I don’t get it. Why do we tell young women that they are free to be soccer stars or astronauts, and then barrage them with signals that the only thing that really matters is sex? This relentless “pornification” of women violates everything we claim to believe about gender equality.

What does he think about your orgasm face? Why should any woman care? Only someone who believes that she exists for the sexual satisfaction of men would consider the question to have any relevance at all.


The above information thankfully comes from the open.salon.com at the following link.

For women, it seems, sex is a big turn-off, reveals a brain scanning study. It shows that many areas of the brain switch off during the female orgasm including those involved with emotion.

"At the moment of orgasm, women do not have any emotional feelings," says Gert Holstege of the University of Groningen in the Netherlands.

His team recruited 13 healthy heterosexual women and their partners. The women were asked to lie with their heads in a PET scanner while the team compared their brain activity in four states: simply resting, faking an orgasm, having their clitoris stimulated by their partner's fingers, and clitoral stimulation to the point of orgasm.

The results of the study are striking. As the women were stimulated, activity rose in one sensory part of the brain, called the primary somatosensory cortex, but fell in the amygdala and hippocampus, areas involved in alertness and anxiety. During orgasm, activity fell in many more areas of the brain, including the prefrontal cortex, compared with the resting state, Holstege told a meeting of the European Society for Human Reproduction and Development in Copenhagen on Monday.

In one sense the findings appear to confirm what is already known, that women cannot enjoy sex unless they are relaxed and free from worries and distractions. "Fear and anxiety levels have to go down for orgasm. Everyone knows this but we can see it happening in the brain," he explains.

Extraordinary behaviour

From an evolutionary point of view, it could be that the brain switches off the emotions during sex because at such times the chance to produce offspring becomes more important than the survival risk to the individual. Holstege points to the extraordinary behaviour seen in some animals during the breeding season, such as March hares, when the urge to mate seems to override the usual fear of predators.

But Holstege cannot explain why there is such extreme deactivation in so many areas of the brain during orgasm. Only one small part of the brain, in the cerebellum, was more active during female orgasm. The cerebellum is normally associated with coordinating movement, though there is also some evidence that it helps regulate emotions. "We don't know what activation of the cerebellum corresponds to," Holstege admits.

His study also revealed clear differences when women were faking an orgasm. Part of the brain involved controlling conscious movement lit up, and there was none of the extreme deactivation.

Next the team hope to look at what happens to the brain in the minutes after orgasm, as well as in patients with sexual problems. The team has already done a similar study involving 11 men, which revealed far less deactivation during orgasm than in women. However, Holstege says the results are probably unreliable and need to be repeated. The problem is that PET scanners measure activity over two minutes and in men it is all over in a few seconds.


By Michael Le Page

Many women crave the orgasm, but never reach it. When seducing a woman, knowing how to give her the best pleasurable and climactic experience is essential if you want her to continually come back to you for more action. Here are some effective ways to get her to orgasm – from foreplay techniques to being the sexual process.

Talking About Sex

From the minute you’re with her, if you can openly make her feel comfortable talking to you about sex, then making sexual advances from her will be easy as she’ll most likely be expecting you to initiate it. This will not only allow her to start slowly getting aroused around you, but there will be enough anticipation from the starting point that will heighten the chances of giving her a nice orgasm. Do everything you can to flirt with her, tease her, and be playful with her. Treat her as an obnoxious lady that is in love with you, yet as a sweet princess that needs to be pampered every so often. Once you have talked about sex, establish physical contact with her to make her comfortable with your touch. Hold her hand and play with it, massage her shoulders, kiss her face and down to her neck. Get as aroused as possible before you proceed into the next step.

Oral Sex

Doing oral sex “right” will really increase your chances of giving her a nice orgasm later. Many women actually prefer oral sex over intercourse. If you can show her that you enjoy the most vital sexual organ that she possesses, your separate yourself away from other men. When performing oral sex, they key is to change yours actions until you find what she likes and gradually continue to do this. Start off licking around her clitoris to tease her, and then lick the labia and vulva. Switch from up and down motions to circular motions, then go back and lick her clitoris. Once she starts to moan, don’t go inside her vagina until later. This might get her sexually frustrated and she may start to become more dominating in directing you to do what she wants. When you’ve done this, it’s time to finish the job.

Sex Positions

When making love to her, remember to use the three popular sexual positions Military, Cowgirl, and Doggy style. If you want to be more adventurous you can always try new positions later. The point is to do something right until she feels that intense contraction in her muscles that will make her moan, scream, and orgasm, and the key to doing this is to angle and position yourself, as well as her body, in ways where you can feel the tightest sensations and deepest penetrations. Build up the anticipation for as long as possible twenty minutes, thirty minutes, forty minutes, and even up to an hour. Finally, end it by giving her the best orgasm a man can give her. She’ll love you for this.


By Tristan Lee

There is no simple pill or potion to increase sex drive in women. In fact, most women benefit from a multifaceted treatment approach aimed at the many causes behind this condition. This may include sex education, counseling, lifestyle changes and sometimes medication.

Lifestyle changes you can make. Healthy lifestyle changes can make a big difference in your desire for sex :

Relationship changes you and your partner can make. For women, better emotional intimacy often leads to better sexual intimacy :

Medical treatments for low sex drive. Medications aren't always necessary to treat low sex drive. But they can help.

The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

When a woman is having an orgasm, parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are switched off, and during orgasm the cortex is not activated, so to have an orgasm, women need to be relax and carefree. Further, orgasms are very individualistic, and to achieve orgasm, erection or ejaculation is not required. What if you can't orgasm ?

Orgasm is an overpowering emotion sensed between your ears, not your legs. The brain is the only organ that can provide reactive feelings like intensive orgasms. Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina, uterus, rectum. Male orgasm has duration of 3 to 5 seconds, female orgasms last a little longer, 5 to 8 seconds.

To achieve an intensive orgasm, erection or ejaculation is not required; orgasm, erection and ejaculation are separate, independent functions. Orgasm is a psychological fact, an exclusively energetic process, a rush of intensely pleasurable sensations and emotions that needs only a healthy and functional brain.

When a woman is having an orgasm, parts of the brain that govern fear and anxiety are switched off and as she climaxes, an area that governs emotional control is also heavily deactivated. During orgasm, the cortex, the part of the brain governing conscious action, is not activated, so to have an orgasm, women need to not be fearful or full of anxiety!

The pleasure of sex is a great gift we receive as a human being, but it needs to be created with intelligence, responsibility and careful planning. When both sides understand that the brain is the biggest sex organ they will be happier and the brain won't be relaxed if you don't practice safe sex! Your partner won't be able to feel pleasures and achieve orgasm when she is worried about diseases or pregnancy!

Why orgasm is difficult for many women? About 15% to 20% of sex therapy cases involve women who have never had an orgasm, and there are probably many more who have not sought therapy. Many factors can influence a woman’s ability to have an orgasm. Physical, emotional, and social factors play a strong role in determining whether or not a woman experiences an orgasm. Physically, women usually need more stimulation than men to achieve an orgasm. The clitoris is the center of physical sexual arousal for most women. However, the clitoris is not located in a place that is particularly likely to be stimulated during vaginal intercourse, and it is difficult to get adequate stimulation from most positions. Practice and communication are important to find out what is most effective in leading to a woman’s orgasm, in addition, having a kind, caring, and experienced partner is certainly of benefit.

These days, every healthy woman should be able to have orgasm; furthermore, the majority of women are capable of multiple orgasms, if they wish to have them! What happens in a woman's body during a climax is very like what happens in men's body when they ejaculate. A feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything blows in a great blast of ecstasy. This orgasmic period is characterized by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds. (Note that some women do experience orgasms without contractions.)

The major difference between male and female orgasm is, after the first climax, many women achieve orgasm again, often within a minute or two, but this is extremely rare in males, and only few young women can achieve multiple orgasm, because it has to be learned, and with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms!

As you have your own taste in food, fashion, and sex, your lover has her own taste in what turns her on sexually. Unfortunately many women have a very vague notion of what turns them on sexually, or are only familiar with few things, and for this reason, men's duty is to help woman to discover as many things as possible and use this information to increase the sexual pleasures.

But in fact, men can not give an orgasm like an aspirin tablet; they help women achieve one, if only they have the correct data to make right things. You have to spend time with yourself to discover what gives you pleasure, and share this info with your lover to make things happen. Working by yourself you can learn how to orgasm in new ways that will make it easier to accomplish with your lover. Two of the many ways for women to orgasm during intercourse are either via additional stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse, or finding a way to directly stimulate your g-spot. These techniques can take time and effort to be learned and practiced by your lover, but if you spend time investigating the possibilities by yourself you'll be better prepared for success.

Most of the times, creating the same pleasures that they feel by themselves, is a problem to solve with their lover, and the only way is transferring the right data through a nice channel. Avoiding any criticism, any offensive approach is highly important, and being very careful is a must! You may use a method of telling him you want to show what you do in private when you are thinking about him? Most men love to watch while you do a show and tell. You can even ask him to help by giving you additional stimulation.

By Amy Guven

There are two major types of orgasms a women can have, clitoral and vaginal orgasms. When masturbating, women usually learn to orgasm using their clitoris. There is nothing wrong with that, but it leaves the world of vaginal orgasms virgin. Many women are unable to climax during intercourse, as they aren’t familiar enough with the stimulation to enjoy it to its fullest extent. And coitus, commonly known as vaginal sex, can be one of the clumsiest ways to stimulate a woman, if done without thought. While it does provide an atmosphere that can be highly arousing, emotionally satisfying and erotic, the degree of stimulation to the woman's clitoral area is nothing compared to masturbation or cunnilingus, so manual stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse may be useful.

How to achieve orgasm during intercourse

The missionary position (with a full pelvic tilt): This position enables the penis to reach the g-spot, the part of the clitoris that extends into the upper side of the vaginal wall. Lie on your back, beneath your partner, and tilt your pelvis upward by putting one or more pillows beneath your buttocks, or ask your partner to rise up your buttocks with his hands.

The woman on top: This position allows the woman to adjust the position of her pelvis so she can better control the friction of the penis against her g-spot. This position also allows deep thrusting into the vagina, which can stimulate the cervix and trigger an orgasm, and will be much better with your partner sitting in the bed, his belly rubbing your clitoris!

Strengthen the grip: During intercourse, many women flex their pelvic floor muscles to give both partners greater pleasure. The stronger the muscles, the better you can contract your vagina and create greater friction against your partner's penis, leading to more clitoral stimulation. Try squeezing down throughout intercourse.

Keep your legs together: You can create friction from the penis and lead to a clitoral orgasm. When your partner inserts his penis into your vagina, squeeze your legs closed and have him place his legs outside yours. Your partner can then squeeze your legs further closed with his thighs. It may help if he can shift his pelvis forward to cause pressure and friction on your clitoris.

In reality, orgasms are very individualistic things and there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever works, feels good, and makes you feel more alive is the most important. What if you can't orgasm? Then you just can't for the moment, and that's no big deal. Sex isn't about orgasm, it's about pleasure, and it's hard to experience pleasure when you're trying to get past the finish line with little care for running the race. As people say - it isn't if you win or lose, it's how you play the game? Sex is a process, not a product!


By Amy Guven

Primary care doctors and gynecologists often ask about sex and intimacy as part of a routine medical visit. Take this opportunity to be candid about your sexual concerns. If your doctor doesn't broach the subject, bring it up. You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex with your doctor, but this topic is perfectly appropriate. In fact, your sexual satisfaction is a vital part of your overall health and well being.

Once you bring up your concerns about low sex drive, your doctor will probably look for a physical cause of the problem, such as a prescription or over the counter medication you're taking. Undiagnosed medical conditions such as diabetes or high blood pressure can also reduce your libido. During a pelvic exam, your doctor can check for signs of physical changes contributing to low sexual desire, such as thinning of your genital tissues, vaginal dryness or pain-triggering spots. He or she may also recommend additional screening tests, thyroid studies and questionnaires to help pinpoint your level of desire and find a reason for low desire. In addition, you may be referred to a specialized counselor or sex therapist to evaluate emotional and relationship factors that can cause low sex drive.

By definition, you may be diagnosed with hypoactive sexual desire disorder if screening tests reveal a persistent or recurrent lack of sexual thoughts or receptivity to sexual activity, which causes you personal distress. Whether you fit this medical diagnosis or not, your doctor can look for reasons that your sex drive isn't as high as you'd like and find ways to help.


The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

Women with sexual concerns benefit from a combined treatment approach that addresses medical as well as emotional issues. Occasionally, there's a specific medical solution using vaginal estrogen cream, for example, or switching from one antidepressant medication to another. More often, behavioral treatments such as couple's therapy and stress management are needed to address the roots of female sexual dysfunction. And sometimes, a combination approach works best.

Non medical treatment for female sexual dysfunction

You can improve your sexual health by enhancing communication with your partner and making healthy lifestyle choices.

Your doctor also may recommend exercising with vaginal weights a series of five weights, each increasingly heavier, that you hold in place in your vagina to strengthen pelvic floor muscles. You gradually work up to heavier weights as your muscle tone improves.

The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

Medical treatment for female sexual dysfunction

Effectively treating sexual dysfunction often requires addressing an underlying medical condition or hormonal change that's affecting your sexuality.

Treating female sexual dysfunction tied to an underlying medical condition might include :

Testosterone may be given as a cream or gel patch applied to your skin. Sometimes, testosterone is given as a pill or injection. Side effects, such as acne, excess body hair (hirsutism), enlargement of the clitoris, and mood or personality changes, are possible. Because long-term effects of testosterone therapy in women aren't known, you should be closely monitored by your doctor.

Hormonal therapies won't resolve sexual problems that have causes unrelated to hormones. Because the issues surrounding female sexual dysfunction are usually complex and multifaceted, even the best medications are unlikely to work if other emotional or social factors remain unresolved.

Emerging treatments

Tibolone is a drug currently used in Europe and Australia for treatment of postmenopausal osteoporosis. In a small study, women taking the drug experienced an increase in vaginal lubrication, arousal and sexual desire. But Tibolone hasn't yet received Food and Drug Administration (FDA) approval for use in the U.S.


The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

While there has been a focus on male sexuality enhancement over the past ten years or so, women have often been ignored when it came to sexuality research. The focus now seems to be shifting, and women's sexuality is suddenly attracting many researchers that are looking to improve and enhance female's sex lives. Diagnosing female sexual dysfunctions is the job for a professional, but women should try and understand their own sexuality in order to get the most out of their sex life. There are a variety of techniques that work for different women, and today there are also a number of female sexual enhancement products for both increasing libido as well as enhancing female orgasm sensitivity. This article is intended to shed some light on women's sexual enhancement and increasing female orgasms.

Sometimes women can suffer from a sexual dysfunction and they aren't able to enjoy a healthy sex life as they normally should. While some dysfunctions are more serious than others, many problems are not considered to be major and are easy to understand and even correct. Low female libido is a very common complaint amongst middle aged women, and is nothing to be concerned about. Sex drive is fueled by a number of hormones, and if these hormone levels fluctuate so do female emotions. Keeping these female libido hormones in check is the trick to maintaining a healthy sex drive. Some women can even suffer from decreased orgasm sensitivity, which can be very frustrating. Luckily, there are different techniques that can help, and even some cream products for this problem.

Different techniques can often be the key for increasing female orgasm sensitivity. This includes different positions as well as different stimulation techniques for bringing on female orgasms. Every woman is different, and individuals will need to find what works best for them. Most orgasms are stimulated through the clitoris, usually by rubbing, pressing, or using a vibrator against this hyper-sensitive part of the female anatomy. While this usually works for stimulating orgasms in females, others might find that they prefer vaginal stimulation to reach orgasm. Something that should be understood is that vaginal stimulation rarely results in orgasms, and the clitoris is almost always the easiest trigger for a female orgasm.

Beyond different techniques, there are now a number of effective products for female orgasm enhancement and increasing female libido. Although the past couple of decades have brought countless sexual enhancement products for men, it wasn't until the most recent few years that women's products came to the market. Now there are many natural products for increasing female libido, based on herbs and vitamins that are known to settle hormonal fluctuations in women. These products are all based on research from civilizations around the world, and many women are already taking some of the ingredients in these supplements, like Black Cohosh, Vitamins A, B, C, etc. Alternatively, for women suffering from decreased orgasm sensitivity there now topical creams, also completely natural. These new creams are allowing women that were never able to experience orgasms to reach new heights of pleasure. Being based on natural ingredients, these products are medically approved and safe for women of all ages.

Female sexuality problems have become the focus of a new group of researchers. A high percentage of women suffer from decreasing libido, an inability to come to orgasm, or a number of other sexual problems. While there is no simple answer to female sexuality, there are plenty of techniques and even some different products for female sexual enhancement.

By toy reviews

Women who commit sexual offences are just as likely to have mental problems or drug addictions as other violent female criminals. This according to the largest study ever conducted of women convicted of sexual offences in Sweden.

Between 1988 and 2000, 93 women and 8,500 men were convicted of sexual offences in Sweden. Given that previous research has focused on male perpetrators, knowledge of the factors specific to female sex offenders has been scant.

A group of researchers at the Swedish medical university Karolinska Institutet have now looked into incidences of mental illness and drug abuse in these 93 convicted women, and compared them with over 20,000 randomly selected women in the normal population and with the 13,000-plus women who were convicted of non-sexual crimes over the same period.

Thirty-seven per cent of the women convicted of sex offences had undergone treatment at a psychiatric clinic during the period, and eight per cent had been diagnosed as having a psychosis. There was no difference in incidences of mental illness and drug abuse between these women and women who had committed other kinds of violent crime.

"This is interesting as men who commit sexual offences usually have fewer psychiatric problems than men who commit other violent crimes," says Niklas Langstrom, Associate Professor at Karolinska Institutet's Centre for Violence Prevention and one of the authors of the study. "So it seems as if female sex offenders, more so than male, suffer from mental illness or have drug problems."

However, the figures differ widely from the control group. Incidences of psychosis were 16 times higher amongst the sex offenders than the control group, drug abuse 23 times higher. According to the research team, the results indicate that women suspected or convicted of sexual offences should undergo routine psychiatric examination, something which, at present, is not done.

By sexual offence in this study is meant rape, non-consensual sex, sexual abuse and sexual molestation. The group has earlier published a similar study on male sexual offenders.

The above information thankfully comes from the sciencedaily.com at the following link.

An increasing number of 70 year olds are having good sex and more often, and women in this age group are particularly satisfied with their sex lives, according to a study published on the British Medical Journal website.

Knowledge about sexual behaviour in older people (70 year olds) is limited and mainly focuses on sexual problems, less is known about "normal" sexual behaviour in this age group.

Nils Beckman and colleagues from the University of Gothenburg in Sweden, studied attitudes to sex in later life among four representative population samples of 70 year olds in Sweden, who they interviewed in 1971-2, 1976-7, 1992-3, and 2000-1. In total, over 1 500 people aged 70 years were interviewed about different aspects of their sex lives including sexual dysfunctions, marital satisfaction and sexual activity.

The authors found that over the thirty year period the number of 70 year olds of both sexes reporting sexual intercourse increased: married men from 52% to 68%, married women from 38% to 56%, unmarried men from 30% to 54%, and unmarried women from 0.8% to 12%.

In addition, the number of women reporting high sexual satisfaction increased, more women reported having an orgasm during sex and fewer reported never having had an orgasm.

While the proportion of women reporting low satisfaction with their sex lives decreased, the proportion of men reporting low satisfaction increased. The authors suggest that this might be because it is now more acceptable for men to admit "failure" in sexual matters.

They also note that the number of men reporting erectile dysfunction deceased, whereas the proportion reporting ejaculation dysfunction increased, but the proportion reporting premature ejaculation did not change.

Interestingly, both men and women blame men when sexual intercourse stops between them. This finding replicates the results of other studies in the 1950s and 2005-06.

"Our study...shows that most elderly people consider sexual activity and associated feelings a natural part of later life", they conclude.

These findings emphasise the important and positive part sex plays in the lives of 70 year olds and is a welcome contribution to the limited literature about sexual behaviour in older people, writes Professor Peggy Kleinplatz from the University of Ottawa in Canada.

It will hopefully highlight the need for doctors to be trained to ask all patients, regardless of age, about their sexual concerns, she adds.

The above information thankfully comes from the sciencedaily.com at the following link.

A new study found that trained sexologists could infer a woman's history of vaginal orgasm by observing the way she walks. The study is published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Led by Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland in collaboration with colleagues in Belgium, the study involved 16 female Belgian university students. Subjects completed a questionnaire on their sexual behavior and were then videotaped from a distance while walking in a public place. The videotapes were rated by two professors of sexology and two research assistants trained in the functional-sexological approach to sexology, who were not aware of the women's orgasmic history.

The results showed that the appropriately trained sexologists were able to correctly infer vaginal orgasm through watching the way the women walked over 80 percent of the time. Further analysis revealed that the sum of stride length and vertebral rotation was greater for the vaginally orgasmic women. "This could reflect the free, unblocked energetic flow from the legs through the pelvis to the spine," the authors note.

There are several plausible explanations for the results shown by this study. One possibility is that a woman's anatomical features may predispose her to greater or lesser tendency to experience vaginal orgasm. According to Brody, "Blocked pelvic muscles, which might be associated with psychosexual impairments, could both impair vaginal orgasmic response and gait." In addition, vaginally orgasmic women may feel more confident about their sexuality, which might be reflected in their gait. "Such confidence might also be related to the relationship(s) that a woman has had, given the finding that specifically penile-vaginal orgasm is associated with indices of better relationship quality," the authors state. Research has linked vaginal orgasm to better mental health.

The study provides some support for assumptions of a link between muscle blocks and sexual function, according to the authors. They conclude that it may lend credibility to the idea of incorporating training in movement, breathing and muscle patterns into the treatment of sexual dysfunction.

"Women with orgasmic dysfunction should be treated in a multi-disciplinary manner" says Irwin Goldstein, Editor-in-Chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine." Although small, this study highlights the potential for multiple therapies such as expressive arts therapy incorporating movement and physical therapy focusing on the pelvic floor."

The above information thankfully comes from the sciencedaily.com at the following link:

I know this may seem like a strange question, but what exactly IS pre-orgasmic ? Does it mean that a person hasn't yet had an orgasm, or that her body isn't ready yet ? I remember reading in one of your answers that many women under the age of twenty are pre-orgasmic. Why is this? Also, what is/are the purpose(s) (besides pleasure) of orgasm in women ?

Thank you for your help,

Pre Orgasmic

Answer :

Dear Pre-Orgasmic,

You're right, a pre-orgasmic person is someone who has not yet had an orgasm; the term is used especially in describing women who have not had an orgasm through masturbation or sex. Experts once described these women as anorgasmic, meaning absence of orgasm; however, this changed when they realized that that having an orgasm was indeed possible and even likely for these women, with the right stimulation. Hence the term pre-orgasmic came (excuse the pun) into vogue.

And yes, many women under 20 are pre-orgasmic. This might be because they haven't attempted to have an orgasm, or haven't discovered what type of stimulation brings them to orgasm. Many other women do learn, often through masturbation or sex, to orgasm well before age 20. Both experiences are normal.

Some women who haven't had an orgasm through masturbation or sex have some success experiencing their first orgasm by using a vibrator on or near their clitoris (plenty of lube is always a good idea, too). Other women have found that using a shower head to stimulate the vulva and clitoris brings on their first orgasm. Orgasms can feel different depending on the area being stimulated (whether the clitoris, vulva, vagina, anus, penis, testicles, or even the nipples or other erogenous zones!). Describing what an orgasm feels like can be difficult, although many people feel a "release" of tension. This somewhat vague description can lead to some confusion as to whether one has had an orgasm.

As for the purpose, it's not entirely clear if orgasms are purely for pleasure or if they evolved to improve reproductive success (by making intercourse more pleasurable so people would partake more often and be more likely to reproduce, or by making it easier for semen to pass through the cervix; both theories receive some attention from researchers). What is certain is that both men and women generally find orgasms to be extremely pleasurable.

However, pre-orgasmic people don't need to feel left out; other aspects of sex and masturbation can be just as fulfilling as the so-called "climax." The journey of self-exploration or sharing your body with a partner provides emotional and physical stimulation that many people value deeply. For those trying to attain their first orgasm, relaxing and focusing on what feels good (rather than whether you're going to reach the big O), is a good place to start.

And by the way, your question isn't strange at all. Thanks for asking,

Alice

The above information thankfully comes from the goaskalice.columbia.edu at the following link.

Here's a question that I bet a lot of women have I certainly do. As a relative newcomer to sexual experience, I don't seem to be having transcendental orgasms ( like Sally in the coffee shop, or other such movie scenes ). The guy seems to have it much easier it's all he can do to keep from coming right away, but I can't focus enough to get there. I think it must be psychological, because I can masturbate to orgasm when I'm alone, but when I'm with my partner, I can get lots of good feelings, but never the "real thing." This problem is often a source of tension between the two of us I resent that he can come, but he feels guilty that he's experiencing this pleasure, and I'm not, and it makes us both very sad. ( I know it's not a relationship problem we're definitely in love ).

Dear Waiting for Ecstasy

You are absolutely right that this is a question a lot of women have. They are looking for the "Look, Ma! No hands!" orgasm. According to Shere Hite, only 30 percent of women orgasm through penile thrusting alone. This is not about failure this is about anatomy. Consider this: when a man masturbates, he stimulates his penis, which is loaded with nerve endings. During heterosexual intercourse, his penis is stimulated in a similar manner. For a woman, the nerve endings are concentrated in the clitoris. ( There are as many nerve endings in the clitoris as there are in the penis ) During intercourse, her vagina is stimulated, but her clitoris is not. The woman who orgasms through intercourse alone may be feeling pressure from her partner's pubic bone, or feeling sensation from one partner's hand touching her "love button" or clitoris. Another way women orgasm with their partners is by masturbating in front of, or with, them. In that way, there is a bit less pressure on intercourse, partners can take a risk with each other, AND partners can teach each other how they like "it." Remember, sex is not inherent it's learned.

The above information thankfully comes from the goaskalice.columbia.edu at the following link.

You might be reluctant to consult your doctor about sexual concerns, but your sexuality is integral to your well being and it's standard practice during general medical visits for doctors to ask about sexual health. The more forthcoming you can be about your sexual history and current problems, the better your chances of finding an effective approach to treating them.

You may need a pelvic exam, during which your doctor will check for any physical changes that may be diminishing your sexual enjoyment, such as thinning of your genital tissues, decreased skin elasticity, scarring or pain.

Your doctor may also refer you to a counselor or therapist specializing in sexual and relationship problems.

Female sexual dysfunction is generally divided into the following four categories, which are not mutually exclusive :

Sexual response is a complex interaction of many components, including physiology, emotions, experiences, beliefs, lifestyle and relationships. If any one of these components is disrupted, sexual drive, arousal or satisfaction may be affected.


The above information thankfully comes from the Mayo Clinic.com at the following link.

I masturbated very often when I was young and can have multiple orgasms. But when having intercourse with my boyfriend, I cannot have orgasm without him touching my clitoris. My boyfriend wants me to have multiple orgasms and feels inadequate otherwise. What can I do ? What are the problems with female orgasm ?

Answer :

You reach orgasm in a normal way. Women generally do not have an orgasm during intercourse, but through the stimulation of the clitoris. You have all the reasons to be happy with your sex life. Why not just enjoy it instead of trying to reach impossible goals ? Men watching pornographic movies, where the actresses have multiple orgasms, believe that women also can have them in reality, but it is very unusual. These actresses are acting very well they are faking it, and the films do not represent how it works in real life.


By Gunborg Palme

Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for over five months now and she's never had an orgasm. I don’t seem to understand what is the problem here. She's had two partners before me and neither have given her an orgasm either. I don't seem to know what’s wrong but what I notice is that she's never in the mood to do it and in addition to that she tells me she feels like something is ripped in her vagina I've told her again and again to go visit a gynecologist but she's just too lazy.

Also she says that if the environment was right maybe it would be possible for her to achieve a female orgasm which I do agree to a certain extent but truthfully I believe something is wrong with her vagina. She loves me to death and says sex doesn't really bother her but to me it does and the fact that I can't give her an orgasm makes me feel like I am a total disgrace.

Teach me how to give a female an orgasm, how to increase the female sex drive. How can she learn to orgasm? Tell me about making a woman orgasm.

Answer :

There is an old Chinese saying :

Man is fire, woman is water. The man's fire brings the woman's water to boiling.

Listen to your girlfriend; she says: "if the circumstances were right maybe it would be possible". Women are not, as men are, immediately stimulated by sight. They need more time. They need the right atmosphere, some romance; sometimes candles and soft music can help.

To get her to desire you and want to have sex, you have to court her, so that she feels like an attractive woman, and not like a service provider. Men can often make up a quarrel by making love, but women need to feel that the relationship is good first, in order to feel desire.

"Why don't you want to make love with me ?" is a question that kills all desire. Say instead: "You are so beautiful, I cannot resist you!"

If she is stressed and thinks of problems, sex will not work. She needs to get in the right mood. Be helpful and give her a lot of care and appreciation.

Making love is a slow process for a woman and may have to start many hours in advance, by fondness and attention from the man she loves.

Women need a much longer foreplay than men. Start by whispering sweet words in her ear and fondling her all over her body, but not in the genital area.

Be sensitive, all the time, to what she likes and what she wants to hear.

Do not fondle the genital area until she is ready (use lubricating gel, which you can buy in a drug store). You need to have patience. She may not get an orgasm until after 20 minutes or more. And sometimes it will not work, even if you do everything right. You need to love her anyway.

Most women will not achieve orgasm through an ordinary genital sexual intercourse. And men often are tired after their orgasm. Because of this, it may be best to ensure that the woman has an orgasm before the man. She will still be excited afterwards, and will enjoy his orgasm.

Women can enjoy sex even if they do not get an orgasm. They enjoy the nearness and intimacy, the fondling and the feeling of love and desire. A request from the man that she must have an orgasm can be a problem for the woman. In spite of this, you should try to learn to satisfy her. I know of women who have left their boyfriends when they have met a man who knows the right way.

Your girlfriend probably does not want to go to a gynecologist, because she feels that this is not the problem. One treatment for a dry vagina is lubricating gel. Do not tell her that she is lazy; instead try to understand her wishes and needs. Respect her, if she does not want to go to a gynecologist. To criticize her will kill all desire and she may resent this for a long time.

If you want something from her, ask her in a nice way, without criticism. Listen to what she says and try to understand her feelings and needs.

A woman who has never had an orgasm may be able to learn this by practice. Her chances of succeeding are higher if she has a partner who is responsive to her needs. Good luck!

By Gunborg Palme